People usually don’t change when they are happy.
Think about that.
Why would you make changes when things are going fine?
Happy people don’t make changes.
Change is usually preceded by frustration, aggravation, irritation or even anger.
Those emotions spur us into action.
After recently moving, I didn’t finish unpacking and clearing out my basement until I got tired of seeing the mess. Every time I walked down to the basement I got somewhat aggravated. I got to the point where it pissed me off and I couldn’t stand it anymore.
That aggravation and anger caused me to take action and make a change.
I’ve seen some of the greatest change in my clients when they finally get pissed off at a situation enough to make a change.
Think of that emotion as the spark in an internal combustion engine. That spark of energy is required before any movement happens.
The spark of change.
No spark, no change.
The entire change process depends on that igniting spark.
So, if I may ask…what is sparking you off today? (OK, bad humor, but its early Saturday morning as I write this and this is the best I have right now).
Is there something around the house?
Something at work?
Something with your children?
Some new habit you want to make part of you?
Whatever it is, I believe you will change only when you past that threshold of irritation or frustration or anger to set the spark off.
Don’t like your finances? Great. Do something about it. But, get mad. Get really mad and tell yourself you aren’t going to take it anymore.
Your anger will spark you and give you motion and momentum. Use it to your advantage. Get pissed at the situation in order to change it.
Now, I’m not talking being fake with yourself or your anger. We are talking real emotion here.
So, I ask again: What is sparking you off today?
Jeffrey A. Betman, Ph.D. is a psychologist, author, and life coach helping people toward the easy life. For a FREE newsletter ($197 value) on making your life easier and FREE report titled 5 Steps To An Easy Life That You Probably Know, But Don’t Do Yet, go to www.LifeIsEasyCoaching.com/sq
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