I hear this word almost everyday from my clients.
One simple word often accompanying a couple other sentences.
Seriously, I hear this almost daily.
It’s like a plague upon the population holding people back from reaching their true potential.
It’s an easy excuse. A way to placate ourselves. Really, it’s just a somewhat clever way to lie to ourselves. When we do it and say it, we don’t feel so bad.
But, the damage has been done. The habit formed. Every time you and I do it, the next time is that much easier.
The word: “someday.”
I hear this daily.
“Someday I’ll clean the garage.”
“Someday I’ll write that report.”
“Someday I’ll work up a household budget.”
“Someday I’ll start saving for retirement.”
“Someday I’ll start exercising.”
“Someday I’ll spend more time with my kids.”
You can already see the problem, right? Someday rarely happens. Someday hardly ever gets here. Because when someday gets here, there is always another “someday.”
Someday is usually accompanied by its gang members “When I get around to it” and “one of these days.” All in the same gang. All beating up on you. All robbing you of your potential.
From my point of view, it is healthier and easier to just say you will not do something. Just don’t do it, rather than get into this false promise to yourself.
And that is really what we are talking about, isn’t it. Making false promises to yourself that you know, the moment you make them, you won’t keep. More lies to yourself.
Try this on for size:
“My garage will just stay like it is.”
“That report is a pain, I will just not do it.”
“Who needs a household budget anyway?” (just kidding on this one)
You get the idea. You are better off being honest with yourself, than lying to yourself. You will feel better. You will have integrity. You won’t feel guilty.
By the way, guilt often is for something you feel you should have done, but haven’t. So, this approach gets rid of all the guilt.
You life will be easier when you stop using this most dangerous word. Maybe delete it from your vocabulary. There could be worse things.
By the way, I’m not immune from the word someday. I am vigilant in listening for it in my daily life, then stopping it in its tracks. It still sneaks out every now and then.
Jeffrey A. Betman, Ph.D. is a psychologist, author, and life coach helping people toward the easy life. For a FREE newsletter ($197 value) on making your life easier and FREE report titled 5 Steps To An Easy Life That You Probably Know, But Don’t Do Yet, go to www.LifeIsEasyCoaching.com/sq
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